I previously blogged Conan O’Brien’s wonderful 2006 commencement speech at Stuyvesant High School. Even better is last week’s Dartmouth College commencement speech. It is of course hilarious, but stay until the end — his closing advice is heartfelt and profound.
There are few things more liberating in this life than having your worst fear realized. I went to college with many people who prided themselves on knowing exactly who they were and exactly where they were going. … Your path at 22 will not necessarily be your path at 32 or 42. One’s dream is constantly evolving, rising and falling, changing course. …
It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique. It’s not easy, but if you accept your misfortune and handle it right, your perceived failure can become a catalyst for profound re-invention.
So, at the age of 47, after 25 years of obsessively pursuing my dream, that dream changed. For decades, in show business, the ultimate goal of every comedian was to host The Tonight Show. It was the Holy Grail, and like many people I thought that achieving that goal would define me as successful. But that is not true. No specific job or career goal defines me, and it should not define you. In 2000—in 2000—I told graduates to not be afraid to fail, and I still believe that. But today I tell you that whether you fear it or not, disappointment will come. The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity, and with clarity comes conviction and true originality.
Many of you here today are getting your diploma at this Ivy League school because you have committed yourself to a dream and worked hard to achieve it. And there is no greater cliché in a commencement address than “follow your dream.” Well I am here to tell you that whatever you think your dream is now, it will probably change. And that’s okay. Four years ago, many of you had a specific vision of what your college experience was going to be and who you were going to become. And I bet, today, most of you would admit that your time here was very different from what you imagined. … But through the good and especially the bad, the person you are now is someone you could never have conjured in the fall of 2007.
I have told you many things today, most of it foolish but some of it true. I’d like to end my address by breaking a taboo and quoting myself from 17 months ago. At the end of my final program with NBC, just before signing off, I said “Work hard, be kind, and amazing things will happen.” Today, receiving this honor and speaking to the Dartmouth Class of 2011 from behind a tree-trunk, I have never believed that more.
- Christian Science Monitor, Conan O’Brien to Dartmouth Grads: Failure is Freeing
- Daily Mail, ‘Failure is Freeing’: Conan Reveals His Tonight Show Heartbreak as He Tells Dartmouth Class of 2011 ‘Your Dreams Will Change’
- L.A. Times, Conan O’Brien Delivers a Commencement Address for the Ages
- Time, Conan’s Dartmouth Commencement Address: As Great As You’d Expect It To Be
- Wall Street Journal, Conan O’Brien Tells Dartmouth Grads That Life’s Not Fair
- Washington Post, Conan at Dartmouth: ‘Whatever You Think Your Dream Is Now, It Will Probably Change’



